Thursday, February 19, 2015

Sometimes It's Better To Hide Your Thoughts and Feelings

This is not about love.

This is for Chelsea fans who did idiotic, evilish behavior on the way to the PSG match or on the way back - I don't know exactly since it doesn't really matter. What matter is what they did. You can check on the video below:

This is unacceptably disgusting.

Maybe to those Chelsea fans on the train, they're thinking that Chelsea is better than PSG. Or maybe England is better than France. Or maybe just as simple as English is better than Africans. Who knows? If they keep it on their mind, it would be no one's problem. Since they sang it in public place and push an African descent so he wasn't able to get on board, and probably influenced the reputation of a football club that I support, I can only think the best way possible is criminal justice investigation. Bring them to court and let the evidence tells the judge what to do. 

I condemn racism but there's simple way to avoid it. Now let's imagine, if these racists could just shut up about their feelings towards Africans people, would it be a problem? Would it hurt people - not just the victim? Which is why I write this in the first place. People, sometimes, just need to hide their thoughts and feelings publicly cause it might hurt many, many people.

Charlie Hebdo, Anyone?

This news reminded me of what I exactly thought about what happened in France weeks ago, where Charlie Hebdo office was being attacked by some people who were claimed as Muslims who angry

Regardless whether these attackers are really Muslims or not, or whether these people were attacking Charlie Hebdo due to their writings, the first thing that they need to remember is that the consequences of what they wrote. Many times they're expressing their resentment towards any religions and Islam is just one of them. After the incident I tried to find out what exactly they wrote firsthand about Islam, and what did I find? Several painfully-provoking description about Islam.

I condemn such attack but I can see the connection if those attackers were motivated to do so if they have the same response with me, let alone if they're more than just angry.  It's ok if people of Charlie Hebdo dislike Islam in their mind or have animosity to every religions that exist. Whatever they're - agnostic or atheist, I can understand if they think that there's something wrong about religions. But to insult publicly in such ugly depiction?

Just like I said previously: people, sometimes, just need to hide their thoughts and feelings publicly cause it might hurt many, many people. In this case is the disdain about Islam as religion. Just shut up and hide it. Perhaps they can write something more constructive to religions' doctrines without humiliating? That would do much better I guess. Still I need repeat that I condemn that attack.

"But Charlie Hebdo have the rights to write what they want! It's freedom of expressions!"

Back to the racism issue above. What if those racists on the train simply claiming that it's part of freedom of expression? "We're racists! We're racists! That's the way we like it!" oh they have the rights to sing and do what they want right?

I have nothing against freedom of expression but one must remember that freedom doesn't mean it's okay for people to insult others and their affiliations publicly. Whatever it is: religions, nationality, race, sport clubs, and so on.What they want were not the right things cause it's hurting.

There are about 6 billions people in the world with their own brain which gave them the ability to think everything differently. Of course, deep inside their mind, who knows what others are actually thinking? That's why people lie to cover their real feelings and people can be misguided by that. Misguiding, in racism context, is necessary though. 

I admit that sometimes I did racist act in the past to my friends, like calling them by their origin or their tribe (also bragging about football clubs). Despite it was only a joke and my friends are ok with that, and I'm ok if there's anyone call me by my tribe (since racism isn't really a problem here in Indonesia), I'm trying to avoid it now. Because I don't know what's really inside their mind. Maybe today they're okay with that, but who knows tomorrow? So I just leave it there and keep it to myself without saying anything related to racism publicly anymore.

So, to all those racists in the world, I can't stop or change who you really are. But please, hide your thoughts and feelings that related to racist. Don't express that. Let's make the world a better place to live by at least telling no things which could hurt others.

Friday, December 19, 2014

A Response to A Very Good Piece: "Karikatur ISIS dan Kemalasan Dalam Beragama"

Jadi ceritanya, salah seorang senior jenius FHUI yang sangat gue kagumi, menulis artikel di selasar.com mengenai polemik terkait Isu ISIS. Tulisannya bagus dan gue rekomendasikan kalian semua buat baca di link ini. Namun demikian ada juga poin-poin dimana, gue merasa, ada yang ingin gue tanggapi. Murni tanggapan bukan koreksi apalagi bantahan. Kalau emang ada yang terkesan mengoreksi atau membantah, bisa jadi karena memang gaya bahasa gue yang kurang bagus aja he he. 

Intinya adalah, tanggapan gue emang cukup panjang sampe tanpa sadar ternyata sampe lebih dari 5 paragraf. With that in mind, gue berfikir sekalian aja gue masukin di blog gue. Daripada sepi postingan ya kan hehehe. So here's my response to the respected man:

A very good piece bang, dan bisa dikatakan secara logika apa yg abang sampein disini itu benar dan saya setuju.

Tapi ada beberapa hal yang saya ingin saya tanggapi, bukan koreksi, pada tulisan abang. Karena walaupun saya juga merupakan salah satu dari sekian orang yang lumayan cetek dari segi ilmu (bukan sarkasme, karena saya merasa memang ilmu saya masih dikit sekali apalagi urusan agama), terdapat beberapa hal yang membuat saya bisa mengerti kenapa banyak orang yang marah, emosi, dsb ketika agamanya dijelekkan sekecil apapun. Karena menurut saya, bagi sebagian orang itu, agama lebih ke arah rasa dan karsa. Rasa dan karsa inilah yang kadang mendorong banyak pemeluk agama untuk menjadi marah dan diluar kendali. Padahal secara logika, dan apabila dalam situasi netral, mungkin mereka mengetahui bahwa apa yang mereka lakukan adalah salah atau gak penting. Sebagaimana pernah saya alami beberapa waktu lalu.

Saya menganalogikan segala emosionalitas terhadap agama banyak yang bersumber pada kecintaan mereka pada agama yang tidak bisa diukur. Apakah saya mencintai Islam lebih baik daripada orang lain? Parameternya apa? Apakah dengan beribadah lebih sering, saya lebih mencintai Islam dibandingkan orang yang lebih jarang beribadah? Menurut saya ini adalah kajian tak berujung dan cenderung rhetoris. Tetapi inilah yang membuat saya berfikir bahwa reaksi emosional terhadap penghujatan agama adalah sebuah reaksi yang somehow reasonable. Namun disaat yang sama, saya juga bisa bilang bahwa reaksi tersebut adalah kurang tepat. Sebagai contoh saya menganalogikan apabila seorang ibu melihat anaknya dipukul kawannya sampai terluka, ibu tersebut pasti marah dan sedih melihat kondisi anaknya. Ada ibu yang secara spontan akan menghampiri kawan anaknya tersebut, lalu ada yang memarahi, ada yang sekedar menasehati, atau melakukan tindakan balas dendam lain yang didasari amarahnya, bahkan ada yang hingga memukul anak orang lain. Apakah tindakan tersebut benar? Jelas tidak. Apakah reasonable? Menurut saya iya. Lalu bagaimana dengan Ibu lain yang tidak membalas kawan anaknya tersebut? Apakah bisa dipersalahkan atau beliau dianggap tidak sayang anaknya? Tentu tidak. Mungkin ia tidak membalas karena ia menggunakan logikanya baik-baik dengan tenang. Intinya memang tiap orang memiliki reaksi yang berbeda-beda. Ada yang reaksinya dapat dikontrol dengan logikanya, adapula yang tidak. Bahkan apabila reaksi tersebut adalah tindak pidana yang tidak wajar akibat adanya goncangan jiwa, sehingga ia tidak dapat menggunakan logikanya, reaksi tersebut juga bisa menghapus tindak pidananya yang diatur dalam Pasal 49 ayat (2) KUHP. Tentu abang sendiri lebih paham mengenai konsep Temporary Insanity yang dipakai di US Court.

Pendapat saya ini bukan sekedar hasil kontemplasi atau reaksi emosi, bang. Sekali lagi saya mengakui bahwa apa yang abang sampaikan disini adalah benar, tapi saya mengakui bahwa ada suatu pembenaran atas reaksi orang-orang yang selama ini kita anggap sebagai orang yang "lebay". FPI lebay. FUI lebay. Forum yang mengatasnamakan agama lainnya adalah lebay. Setidaknya itu dulu pandangan saya terhadap mereka, walaupun mereka juga berbicara mengenai Umat Islam ditindas di negara lain, bahkan di negara sendiri Islam didiskriminasikan seperti di Bali, saya tidak terlalu peduli. Sampai pada suatu hari dimana saya menemukan orang yang menghina Islam dalam bentuk generalisasi Islam sebagai agama yang biadab, saya pun secara reaktif berusaha untuk defensif dengan pernyataan klise "gak semua orang Islam itu teroris" dan bla bla bla. Tapi apa yang saya dapat? Saya justru malah diserang oleh ratusan atau mungkin ribuan orang yang menjelek-jelekkan Islam mulai dari mereka yang menjelek-jelekkan Allah SWT, Rasulullah SAW, hingga Al-Quran. Memang harusnya saya bisa mengendalikan emosi saya. Tapi yang ada justru malah saya melakukan twitwar yang luar biasa menyita waktu dan mungkin tidak penting karena mereka dan saya tidak akan menyatukan argumen atau berusaha menemukan titik temu.

Jika abang tidak percaya, abang boleh mengecek mention untuk saya yang terdapat komentar dari @RIchardDawkins dan @DannyBarbera. Atau liat tanggapan orang-orang yang menjelekkan Islam pada tweet ini:


Parameter penistaan agama memang absurd. Tapi disitu saya bisa memastikan bahwa dalam benak saya, terdapat reaksi amarah yang luar biasa besar, yang membuat saya sangat uring-uringan dan rasanya panas sekali hati saya sampai saya melempar barang-barang di kamar dan menonjok tangan saya ke tembok. Wajar? Tidak. Benar? Rasanya juga tidak. Logis? Tidak juga. Tapi apakah hal tersebut adalah hal yang reasonable mengingat hal itu adalah reaksi yang spontan dan luapan emosi tersebut tidak pernah saya rasakan sebelumnya? Menurut saya, iya bang. Hanya saja cara saya salah.

Sekali lagi bang, saya setuju dengan tulisan abang. Yang saya sampaikan disini hanyalah bentuk pendapat saya bahwa, terlepas dari benar atau salah, atau secara nalar, saya merasa bahwa reaksi emosi atas penghinaan agama itu adalah hal yang bersumber dari rasa dan karsa. Sebagaimana kecintaan kita pada keluarga atau sesuatu lainnya, yang kadang tidak bisa dicerna dengan logika, adalah reasonable. 

Salam hormat, 

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

AT THE AGE OF 25, THIS SONG IS HUGELY THOUGHTFUL

The Song is "Homesick" by Kings of Convenience.

Recently, I've been whacked by continuous waves of "what went wrong" and "how to manage my life" thoughts. Yea it's not strange actually since I'm now on my quarter life crisis. Also the fact that I'm writing this on 23.00 o'clock means that I'm on my contemplating hours (start from 22.00 to 02.00). That's why I'm trying hard to sleep early at 21.00 to avoid that.

Surprisingly, in such uncomfortable moment, Homesick popped in my mind. I like KOC but I believe that the last time I heard them was 2010 or when I was still in University. Never heard them eversince due to my formatted hard drive which contained GBs of musics. Such a right timing for a wrong time I would say.

Let's go to the lyrics. I don't know who's going to read this and I don't know whether the reader has same perception with me. I bold the words which can make me feel headache just to read that let alone think about that. Now here we go:

I'll lose some sales and my boss won't be happy,
but I can't stop listening to the sound
of two soft voices
blended in perfection
from the reels of this record that I've found.

Every day there's a boy in the mirror asking me...
What are you doing here?
Finding all my previous motives
growing increasingly unclear.

I've traveled far and I've burned all the bridges
I believed as soon as I hit land
all the other options held before me,
would wither in the light of my plan.

So I'll lose some sales and my boss won't be happy,
but there's only one thing on my mind
searching boxes underneath the counter,
on a chance that on a tape I'd find...
a song for someone who needs somewhere to long for.

Homesick.
Because I no longer know where home is.

Thank you, Kings of Convenience. What a way to remind me something important in such inconvenient way.